36 Question that Leads to Love
STUDIES SHOW THAT VULNERABILITY IS THE KEY TO INTIMACY.
REVEALING PERSONAL INFORMATION CAN MAKE YOU FALL IN LOVE FASTER. AT LEAST THAT’S
WHAT DR. ARTHUR ARON DISCOVERED IN HIS INTERPERSONAL CLOSENESS EXPERIMENT. OVER
20 YEARS AGO, HE PAIRED SEVERAL STRANGERS TOGETHER AND HAD THEM ASK EACH OTHER
THE 36 QUESTIONS BELOW. WITHIN 6 MONTHS, ONE OF THE COUPLES ENDED UP GETTING MARRIED.
IF IT WORKS FOR STRANGERS, IT MAY WORK TO BRING YOU CLOSER TO YOUR HUSBAND OR BOYFRIEND.
THE PURPOSE OF DR. ARON’S EXPERIMENT WAS TO SPEED UP THE TIME IT TAKES TO MAKE TWO
PEOPLETO FALL IN LOVE, BY CREATING INTIMACY. WHENEVER YOU SHARE THOUGHTS,
PERSONAL FEELINGS, GOALS, DREAMS, AND DESIRES WITH ANYONE, YOU CREATE INTIMACY AND VULNERABILITY.
TWO RULES TO KEEP IN MIND: IN ORDER FOR THE EXPERIMENT TO WORK,
1. BOTH PARTIES MUST BE WILLING TO ASK AND ANSWER ALL QUESTIONS. WHILE SHARING IS
IMPORTANT
2.LISTENING IS EQUALLY IMPORTANT. THE LISTENER MUST SHOW SUPPORT AND
AFFIRMATION, REGARDLESS OF THEIR PARTNER’S
ANSWER TO THE QUESTIONS.
FOR EXAMPLE, IF I REVEAL TO MY HUSBAND THAT I CRY WHENEVER I SEE A HOMELESS PERSON...